Since I started losing weight, I can't tell you how many absolutely STUPID questions and comments have been said to me and about me. Recently - not to my face - it was commented that I am "obsessed" with exercise and losing weight and that I need an intervention. I also had someone comment behind my back (to someone they clearly didn't know was close to me) that I am a liar, because "everyone knows" that it is IMPOSSIBLE to lose this much weight through diet and exercise and I MUST have had surgery and should just admit it.
Most of these things don't bother me all that much. If someone thinks I'm a liar, fine. People who know me know the truth. But there are 2 comments that absolutely drive me crazy. In second place is this one: "You must feel so much better, don't you?" And in first place - it makes me cringe every time - is "You are a whole different person!" I think people mean well when they say these things.
BUT I think they bother me so much because it makes an assumption that all fat people are sedentary, lazy, stupid, and completely unhealthy. Now don't get me wrong - some fat people fit that description - as do some SKINNY people!! But that is NOT true for many fat people. I was active. I was not dealing with a lot of health issues. I walked the dogs and gardened and all kinds of things. And guess what? I am the SAME EFFING PERSON now that I was when I was fat. Yes, my priorities are different and I made some hard choices and worked my ass off. BUT it was in me all the time, or I wouldn't have been able to do it.
I know I AM healthier now. And I have made changes. BUT, I am me. My intelligence, my personality - it's all the same. I am just thinner now.
I hope all this makes sense. I would love to see some comments about what you guys think about this post!! Please let me know!!