On the weight loss site this week, someone re-posted from another site one of those - well, IMO - hokey general letters directed to the nameless "fat girl" at the gym. There's also another one of these open letter directed to the "fat girl" who has just started running circulating around the internet.
The letters are meant to be motivational - to encourage someone embarassed and new to exercising to keep it up and assuring them that there is only admiration out there, and that no one is judging them.
Wonderful, right? Except it's a lie. There are many people who see a fat person running - usually slowly, red faced and sweating - down a street and truly in their hearts have nothing but admiration for that person. But you and I both know that there are a whole lot of others who are laughing their heads off at the "fat ass" running down the street and making remarks to their friends. And if the fat runner is lucky, they'll never know that. If they are unlucky, well, they'll hear something yelled from a passing car.
It would be wonderful if the world was full only of supportive, kind and empatheic people. They are out there. I have met them.
But there are also mean, spiteful and judgemental assholes out there. Ones that take their personal misery and arrogance out on others. Ones that stick their noses into other people's business and make assumptions and judgements. I have met them, too.
Remember that guy who wrote a letter to that on-air reporter out of nowhere telling her that she shouldn't be on the air because she was obese and a terrible example to young girls? I mean - what the fuck? What made him think that he was in any position to make those judgements? Or that it was any of his business? And then when he was interviewed he said that he was just concerned and wanted to help her. Yeah, right.
I know that people made assumptions about me when I was fat. Namely that I was fat because I was weak-willed and lazy. There may have been some truth to that except - I am the SAME person now then I was then. I am not a better person. I just have made different choices.
So, if you are afraid to run outside or go to the gym because there will be people who judge you or laugh at you - well, they are out there. But there are also people that DO admire what you are doing and you have to remember that, as well. You have to get to the point where you realize that you cannot control them, only yourself. Remember that there are people who love you and support you - even some that don't know you - as I have found out this week.
And if you are one of those fucktards who feel the need judge others and stick your nose in and give your opinion about everything, just remember - when you point your finger at someone else, 3 point back at you.