10 years! That's how long Marc and I have been married as of today!
We met, as many of you know in 1989. Our first official date was to see the movie Pet Semetary - romantic, huh? We have been together – virtually inseparable – ever since.
When we got married we were met with dire predictions about how getting married would change our relationship. I kinda believed it. But it didn’t happen.
And then 5 years ago – without words – we embarked on a major life change together. Even though it was a positive and healthy change, it could have destroyed us. A complete change - both good and bad - often destroys marriages.
I think this is true for many reasons. Some of it could be jealousy - I didn't exactly have tons of men checking me out when I was morbidly obese! I'm still not exactly a looker but I do get more attention then in the past. And Marc is not upset or threatened at all by this like so many men I know. He trusts me completely as I do him.
He is the most non-controlling, supportive husband I could ask for. If I didn't know it before, it became evident by how he had to wait on me and care for me after my surgery!!
I think we have lasted so long due to doing this together. I don't think I would be as committed to eating healthy or to exercise without having him right by my side. And we support one another without judgment or criticisms. In fact, I would say were are closer now then we have ever been!
We are certainly not a perfect couple, and what works for us wouldn't work for everyone. But the best part is being with someone who makes you happy and encourages you to grow as a person.
We are not together because it is easy or convenient like many other couples I know. We stay together because neither of us can imagine life without the other person. We are deeply and passionately in love with one another.
I am feeling very lucky today!